10 Signs of a Good Listener
A good listener is worth their weight in gold and one of the most important foundations in a relationship is for both partners to be good listeners. Here are ten signs of a good listener:
1.You Can Feel That The Listener Is Fully Present And In the Moment With You: You can tell the difference between someone who is fully in the moment with you versus someone who has their mind on something else.
2.The Listener Will Keep Eye Contact With You: The listener will keep constant eye contact with you, only looking away on occasion to prevent staring or awkwardness.
3.The Listener Will Nod, Smile And Give You Auditory Feedback: A good listener will nod, smile and give you auditory feedback such as "Mm hum", "Yeah" "I see" or "No, really?" in a sincere and interested way.
4.The Listener Will Encourage You To Continue Talking: As you are talking, they will encourage you to continue talking. For example they will say things like "That's really interesting" or "I find that interesting, please continue "or "I'd like to hear more."
5.The Listener Will Parrot Back What You Are Saying When Appropriate: Every once in a while, a good listener will parrot back what you say to indicate they are paying attention and that they are right in your story with you.
6.The Listener Will Only Finish Your Sentence When Appropriate: A good listener will only finish your sentence when the timing is right, not to try to rush you through your story or to help you out when you are at a loss of words.
7.The Listener Goes By the 80% Listening, 20% Talking Rule: A good listener knows that the art of being a good listener and will listen approximately 80% of the time during the course of the conversation and spend only 20% of the conversation talking.
8.The Listener Will Keep The Conversation Focused on Your Topic of Discussion: There is nothing more annoying than to open a conversation with someone and they change the topic on you in the middle of what you are trying to express.
9.The Listener Will Ask You Thoughtful and Open-ended Questions About What You Are Talking About: A good listener will ask you thoughtful questions that will lead you into opening up into further detail about your topic of discussion. For example, they may say something like, "So you work in the Marketing Department, tell me about some of the duties that you are in charge of or what specifically are in you charge of or what aspects of your job do you love?"
10.The Listener Knows How to Empathize With You: When a good listener feeds back how you are feeling, their description of the feeling or emotion will actually match how you are feeling.
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